potato chips and
French onion dip, sunshine, and
fresh watermelon
original poetry and haiku
Dear straight Christian friend,
When you post a picture of
a burning gay pride flag online,
I am not merely encountering
an expression of an opinion.
I don't simply see a person
making a statement
about an issue.
I don't view it as
an individual "deeply devoted
to a faith based on mercy and grace"
taking a stand amidst a culture war.
I see my friend
advocating -- and perpetrating --
violence against me.
I feel threatened
and frightened
and sickened.
I see -- with my own eyes --
my friend proclaiming
to me and the world
that I am worthy of abuse.
I witness my friend
declaring me fit for
gasoline
and matches
and burning flesh
and torture
and death.
I see that my friend --
my "loving, compassionate, Christ-like" friend --
is not, in fact, my friend at all.
-- Your gay neighbor
Ladies, join us this Sunday for Go Girl Saugatuck's Spirit Sunday Brunch! I will kick off the spoken word presentation with a set of my own and help to facilitate an open mic session thereafter.
Sunday, June 5, from 10 a.m. to 12 p.m.
310 Blue Star Highway
Douglas, MI
For more information about the entire women's weekend and lineup -- including the brunch -- please visit Go Girl Saugatuck.
I am happy to announce that I have been asked to read my poem "My One Wild and Precious Life" at this year's PRIDE Poetry Reading, as a part of Holland's 2022 PRIDE celebration.
Wednesday, June 1, from 7 to 8:30 p.m.
300 S. River Ave.
Holland, MI
Please join us then!
I am pleased to announce that I will be the featured poet at Go Girl Saugatuck's Spirit Sunday Brunch next month! I will kick off the spoken word presentation with a set of my own and help to facilitate an open mic session thereafter. Ladies, please join us as we celebrate our souls!
Sunday, June 5, from 10 a.m. to 12 p.m.
310 Blue Star Highway
Douglas, MI
For more information about the entire women's weekend and lineup -- including the brunch -- please visit Go Girl Saugatuck.
A man doesn't obsess
over his face.
It is what it is.
He doesn't even give it
a second thought.
He was born with that face,
was raised with that face,
and grew up with that face.
He went through grade school,
middle school, high school,
and college with that face.
He dated with that face,
started a career with that face,
and formed a family with that face.
Everyone who's ever met him
knows him by that face.
He never reached an age when he was
asked, encouraged, or expected to begin
covering up
his natural, "God-given" face with
moisturizer,
concealer,
base,
powder,
blush,
eyeliner,
mascara,
eyebrow pencil,
three shades of eye shadow,
lip liner,
lipstick,
and lip gloss
every
single
day.
He never hides his true face.
He doesn't spend hours each week
covering his face early in the morning
and uncovering it late at night.
He doesn't spend years
distrusting his real face,
building a life, a career,
a family, a self,
based on a lie, a fake, a coverup.
He doesn't spend a moment
wondering if his actual face
is acceptable
without a full-fledged makeover.
He didn't learn how to
abandon his true face,
distrust his bare, naked face,
disconnect from his real self,
or disassociate from his true face
in order to create a completely
different visage
to present to the world.
He trusts his face
and relies on his face
without even knowing it
or thinking about it.
He just moves through the world
as his self,
with his true, natural, real, actual face,
without fear or worry.
He does this without even a thought.
Meanwhile, a woman
is expected to do the exact opposite --
to model to the entire world
that her true, natural, real, actual,
"God-given" face is unacceptable
and should only be
seen in public
when it is 100% altered --
to become
quite literally
two faced.
My spouse fills our house
with the scents and sounds of home --
homemade sourdough bread and Tina Turner tunes.
There were four
of them -- four
graceful geese
gliding over 65
North as the four-
lane interstate
backed up
farther and farther
south. In the midst
of the two-accident
Tuesday morning
turmoil, just as I
began to grip my
steering wheel
in frustration, I
saw the quartet
breezing over
all four lanes
of traffic without
a honk of their own --
so soft, so peaceful,
so content; so intent.
I watched them
split into two pairs
and continue on their
January journey,
as I adjusted my
hands and then
my attitude, without
a honk of my own.
I keep the photo in a box,
the box that my grandmother
gave me one Christmas,
the box that holds a single
glass angel ornament with golden trim.
I tuck the picture
underneath the angel
for safe keeping.
The photograph captures
the Christmas that you
spent with us 18 years ago
in Nashville.
This is the first Christmas
that Grand is no longer with us,
and the first Christmas
that the two of you,
complete strangers,
will somehow keep each other
company.
every sip
every drip
a present
to yourself
watch it steep
inhale deep
stealing moments
for yourself
black, green, white
pure delight
with a friend or
by yourself
Three miles in an
hour and a half --
bumper-to-bumper
interstate congestion and
stomach indigestion,
angry drivers with
hungry kids, no
exit in sight, and
no explanation.
Arrivals delayed;
hugs and hand-
shakes on hold;
dinners postponed.
It was easy to get
irritated and impatient,
until we saw
the white sheet
on the ground.
Suddenly, we were
thankful for the
fume-filled air that
we were breathing.
When I drink ginger ale,
I think of my grandmother,
who always had ginger ale,
White Zinfandel and leftovers
in the fridge at her house --
the house with the
bamboo in the backyard
and the pool table in the basement,
the house with the fireplace
and long reach matches in the living room,
and the bedrooms that my father and uncles
grew up in upstairs.
When I drink ginger ale,
I remember her contagious cackle
and raise my glass to Grand.
like the allegiance of a faithful friend
like the familiar hand of a lover
like the loyalty of a family pet
As summer begins to
close her eyes in
exchange for fall's
awakening, I want
to remember these
days; what it feels
like to slip into
sandals, and hop into
the car without a
jacket and drive to
meet some friends
with Tennessee's green
hills in front of me and
the sun on my back.
Marriage is
telling each other
what to do with our sores.
Co-written by Rebecca Davenport
a cardinal and a bluebird
sitting on a white fence
suddenly feeling patriotic
My afternoon walk
was interrupted by
a vicious scene --
two black turkey vultures,
two agents of death,
two dark figures
hunched and hovering over
an innocent squirrel
in the middle of the road,
devouring every bit of life,
shredding every fiber of flesh,
mutilating every scrap of dignity,
annihilating every piece of providence,
poking and prying and picking and
pecking and plucking and probing
until the body was nothing but a hollow carcass,
just like my parents do to me.
a fine Sunday morning flapjack breakfast
including one, petite pancake
for the pup
from having butterflies
to sharing houseflies
to watching fireflies in our twilight
Note: I wrote this on Martin Luther King Jr. Day in 2013 -- a triply historic holiday.
On MLK Day,
inauguration day,
on the day
that a gay
Cuban-American poet
read a poem
to America,
I am moved
to tears
in the sunlight
of my study,
thankful
for the sunshine,
my books, and
the partner
our dog, cat and I
await, who will
join us after work
on this fine day.
Some things
silence the
professional speaker.
Some things
stump the
international intellectual.
Some things
paralyze the
confident wordsmith.
Some things...
ban on "bored" meetings:
espresso, shortbread cookies;
jazz records on low
Sometimes the best way
to love your family is
to steer clear of them.
listening to a song you wrote
while driving around in the town
where we met